Q&A - Ask Danielle Anything !!!
I usually receive a ton of emails, not just fan mail. I am talking about people seeking advice and just info on anything from "How do i tell my girlfriend " to " Who do you go for hormones " etc...
Here is your chance to do it and also help someone who has the same question you may have and yet remain anonymous. Ask me anything except financial advice LOL and remember that the final decision is the one that is made based on your own experiences.
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Q: I'm a transvestite and no longer happy with my body and the way I am so in fact i'm trapped in man's body.
I made an appoitment with my doctor to have some hormones and to have breasts and a more real feminine body etc.
I'm not living as a female yet so here's go my question; did you lived as a transvestite (guy dressed in females clothes) before you became a sexy shemale and afterwards a full-time female?
A: Yes, I lived a gay lifestyle prior to my transition. In fact, 1 year after my first hormone shot I contemplated going back to being a boy. But after I went through the correct transition methods the well trained professionals diagnosed me as having Gender issues. I also noticed I was alot happier as a woman then a man. It was ultimately a personal decision that was right for me. I waited 2 years to have implants and 6 to have SRS. I also lived for like a year as a boy wearing heavy sweaters to hide my breast tissue. Very difficult in the summer. I was extremely confused, lets just say. When the time is right you will know. Don't rush or push anything. Let time be your guide and trust your soul.
What also helped me alot were self help books. You can find those at Borders or Amazon. Books that deal with your 6th sense, listening to yourself, intuition, the voice within...what ever...
Hope it all helped...
Here is some research Material that May help:
What does it mean to "feel like a woman" or to "feel like a man????" I personally feel that my transsexuality is more about feeling uncomfortable being viewed as a man (gender dysphoria) than being happy about being viewed as a woman (gender euphoria). I am not the only transsexual with this view of gender identity conflict. Yet we were excluded from Blanchard's transsexual sample and even his full sample. Excluding those transsexuals who's gender incongruence focuses on not being our biological sex is only likely to over-estimate the proportion of transsexuals who have especially strong longings (including sexual fantasies) of being our target sex.
A second way Ray Blanchard selected participants creates another more subtle bias. When Blanchard assigned transsexuals to sexual orientation groups and compared their rates of autogynephilic fantasies, he naturally used the 212 participants who were transsexual. But when he defined the construct of autogynephilia (using a factor analysis), he used all 302 participants who had ever felt like woman (such as only when cross-dressed). Just because the "core autogynephilia scale" is a single unified construct among this larger sample does not mean it is also a single unified construct among transsexuals. One consequence of Blanchard's model is that cross-dressers and "non-homosexual" transsexuals are different by degree instead of kind. Yet by assuming the same constructs would apply to both transsexuals and cross-dressers before the factor analysis, he begs the question about this issue.