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Originally Posted by Nicole Dupre
This is a porn forum. Everyone enjoys the superficial aspects of a beautiful woman, but all of a sudden you turn into saints? Please. Sarah, you won't even show us what you look like.
I would never claim to be a saint. This also isn't a new rant of mine. On the contrary, the one observation of mine that, in my experience, has been consistent
everywhere involving trans spaces, are these attacks on peoples appearances.
Doesn't matter what the environment is- it can be a support forum, a forum like HA, a support group- it seems everywhere in trans spaces, there are people trying to attack others using appearances as the method of doing so. Every time there is an argument, no matter how trivial or pointless it may be- out comes the "oh but you don't have big tits" or "you use wigs" remarks, or the wrong pronouns, or the birth names when that information is known, or before/early transition pictures when they are available.
Most of the time when I see a wrong pronoun used, or a birth name, or before pictures, or early transition pictures- its coming from another trans girl. This has been one of my bigger complaints for
years (not just on HA but on
every forum I've actively participated on).
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So I ask you, why chime in?
So why bring it up? That it happens so frequently in trans spaces ruins
ALL credibility in trying to ask others to do better on these issues.
You can't honestly expect people to buy that guys, the press, or anyone else should use proper pronouns, proper names, and respect trans girls when trans girls are wholly and categorically incapable of doing such things to each other. Why the hell SHOULD any guy on here show a trans girl respect on this forum? Is this behavior that which would command respect, or is it behavior that would encourage more of the same?
It is not coincidental that some of the worst damage the trans community has had to face has been self inflicted. Whether we're talking about using external forces as divisionary tools (be it the "true"/"untrue" designations... or the "primary"/"Secondary" labels). AG theory wasn't invented by an outsider you know. I can think of dozens of examples like this or worse; like mid life crisis transitioners trying to keep HRT out of the hands of anyone under 30/35, or like that girl in Canada who was lobbying to remove HRT from Ontario's NHS with the intention of hurting other trans girls. Etc.
With all this (and more) belligerent behavior being put on parade in trans spaces everywhere & all the time, it's no wonder the media has so many sensationalized "crazy tranny" stories to use to convince the general public we're all batshit crazy. All it takes is a few salvage beatings or misplaced attempts at validation, or unnecessary violence to spill over before the public and then the media can go and say "see!? See?! I told you those freaks were nuts!!!"
Why have you been so tenacious in your opposition to true/untrue labels on HA? I mean if this is just a porn site where these things don't matter, then it is mind boggling that Peggy, Phobun, or anyone else would be able to offend you so easily on this stuff. Truth be told I wasn't even aiming my prior post at you. I don't read every thread on HA, but I have noticed a LOT of threads of late where this issue has reared its ugly head- and like in the past when this has happened, I made a post expressing my opinion of it.