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05-29-2012 #11
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Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
I'd be pretty upset if a gay guy pretended to be straight and married me. It's like spending years and years with someone who you think loves you but in reality isn't even attracted to you at all. It's sad for the girl who thinks her husband loves her, and the guy who's in the closet pretending to like girls. I think they should just stop pressuring him to admit something he obviously isn't comfortable admitting. I think lesbian women endure a lot of harassment too, and I think it's unfair to say they don't.
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05-29-2012 #12
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Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
Question: Do we have any real evidence Travolta has cheated on his wife with men? The most recent allegations appeared to be total B.S. Not to mention that he and his wife have remained together for over twenty years. I doubt he's hidden whatever he's into from her for all these years.
And to answer the question, I think many men view homosexuality as a threat to their masculinity; hence men who engage in it are ridiculed and ostracized. Perhaps men sub-conciously worry that bisexual men may try to rape them, hence why gay and bisexual men are refused camaraderie. And also why those who engage in it often keep it a secret. Men generally have an inner revulsion to being dominated by other men, and being raped by another man is the ultimate form of domination and subordination (ever watched two puppies try to hump one another?). I'm pro-gay rights, but I'm sometimes slightly uncomfortable around gay men and gay couples. There is no sensible reason for it, but nevertheless it's there.
Lesbians pose no such threat to men--hence why men don't mind. Women also haven't historically raped one another with anywhere near the frequency as males have--so I don't think that they have that inner revulsion toward homosexuality that festers within men.
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05-29-2012 #13
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Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
True, but at this point they've been married over twenty years. Even if Travolta wanted to keep the charade going--I think his wife would have figured it out and moved on by now. Kelly Preston doesn't need Travolta like the wife of a Senator would need her husband. She's arguably as big of a star as he is and doesn't need his support. Hugh Jackman, IMO, is in the closet. I don't know about Travolta.
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05-29-2012 #14
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Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
Even Barney Stinson? I think Hollywood's just starting to see it doesn't matter.
But, this isn't only Hollywood. I personally know a man who came out as "bi" and his wife left him and everyone doesn't believe he even likes women, at all. Forget what he says, everyone else knows better than he does about himself...
Honestly, I don't like pointing fingers, but most guys I know who have known friends in Travolta's scenario, get a little put-off by it, but they get over it soon enough. It's the GG's who can't handle it. There's just something that causes them to just sort of blow up with the concept of a man actually being bisexual. Maybe they're too weak to get it. Maybe they're listening to their gay friends who have too much "wishful thinking" that the man is completely gay.
I don't know why, but all I know is that few GGs I've ever met actually believe a man can be bisexual, and those who did were the most strong-minded women I've ever met. And, this affects straight men and the rest of the world, since most straight men fall in line with their female friends, most gay men wants most bi men to be with guys only (obviously) and most lesbians don't give a sh*t.
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05-29-2012 #15
Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
I am always surprised that people are still surprised to find out some man had sexual contact with another man. Its like being surprised some guy cheated on his wife.
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05-29-2012 #16
Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
It's never been a secret that he liked guys. Carrie Fisher kind of outed him on that in the 80's. I don't think it really matters that much, Will Smith, Tom Cruise, & Keanu Reeves, all had the "gay" rumors. It may be true and it may not be, but I don't think it's really hurt any of them at the box office. The trick, I think, as with everything else in life, is not to rock the boat with the public. If you are private about your private life, most people don't really care. Neil Patrick Harris is the prime example. He's out, but he's not, and I hate this term, in your face about it, the way someone like Elen DeGeneris was. Her coming out was in all kinds of magazines, there was a buildup to it on her sitcom, she gave plenty of interviews, etc. NPH Didn't, there were a couple stories, a couple interviews, and now he quickly moves on about it when he's asked. NPH's career keeps going strong and I still can believe he brands hookers with an NPH on their asses, Elen DeGeneris has a semi-popular talk show having been downgraded from actress and comedian.
Here's the one thing that will mess with your mind though. I guarantee you'll never watch Grease the same way again.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz...-sleeping.html
Jus wookin puh nub.
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05-29-2012 #17
Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
Hmmm...
Dick riding is NOT a form of transportation; it gets you NOWHERE.
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05-29-2012 #18
Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
Here's what I dont get. I dont understand why more people dont say he is, or may be bisexual. If a male has a girlfriend or wife, and then has sex with a man, most people say something he is really gay, and only was with women to hide, that he wa gay. But if it was reversed, they wouldn't automatically say the woman was really gay. Even a lot of t-girls fall into the same thinking mode. They think that men only like them because they are really gay, even if they have wives and girl friends. So men that like t-girls are often put in the same category. Even though a t-girl can be indistinguishable from a cisgendered woman, some will wrongly say that the man who would date a t-girl really is gay. Even here, many people need to open their minds about sexuality.
One post-op you posted here a few times, nearly drove me crazy. Even though she identified as bisexual herself, she insisted that a man who wanted to have an encounter with a pre-op with his girlriend, was in fact, gay.
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05-29-2012 #19
Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
Two issues intertwined here - the issues of Travolta specifically (which I cannot comment on) and the wider issue of male prejudice against the gay or bisexual.
I think insecurity has something to do with it. For some reason men feel their own "masculinity" is in some way threatened by men who are "effeminate" or whose sexual interests are directed towards other men (and for these insecure men - the transgendered are seen effectively as men.) They are less bothered by gay women (except if their wives or girlfriends "come out") to the same extent because many men fantasise about women with women or a threesome with two women who are bisexual. Few hetereosexual men fantasise abut a trio with a second man in the frame.
This insecurity makes the patriarchal society see homosexuality as a disease or an aberration. Something can be cured or confronted and by force or persuasion driven out.
Many men, in societies so prejudiced that homosexuality is illegal (until the 1960s the case in the UK) and, in some cases punished by death (some islamic countries) , either hide (in the closet ) or hide their sexuality from themselves and get into hetereosexual relationships when their true natures would seek a different expression. Some become priests - explaining the peculiarly high number of cases of sex abuse levelled against Roman Catholic clerics.
Last edited by Prospero; 05-29-2012 at 11:28 AM.
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05-29-2012 #20
Re: John Travolta- Male Double Standard
I still think Travolta is bi since he is sexually intimate with Kelly Preston. I agree there is a reflexive judgement in the media that if a married male celeb has an extramarital affair with another man, he's automatically gay when actually he's more likely bisexual.
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