Do looks drive transsexual acceptance... or competenecy

[fivekatz]

In general appearances are perhaps rated too high on the evaluation process people make of strangers.

And perhaps no place this fosters itself more than in the US. No matter how much a person exerts their inner beauty, intellectual prowess and expertise in matters, people often won't look further than skin deep.

And for the transgendered I am sure this judgmental world looking overtly male if you are a trans-woman is a conduit for rejection in one form or another.

And as for the business of porn, nobody is looking for girls (GG or TS) with hatchet faces anymore than they are looking for homely, skinny guys with tiny cocks.

[fivekatz]

I must add that if people take the time to be the best they can and look the best they can (without the Joan Rivers look) then their acceptance should be widespread and those who have some issue still is shallow. And by missing the point that people who strive be the best they can every day are interesting and make our lives richer.

[DeliaTS]

I think looks can make it easier on transwomen but there are other things like deportment and voice that really make a difference in public settings. You can look like a million bucks but if you walk like a lumberjack and sound like Barry White you are going to have a lot of trouble blending in with "the cisgendereds" and gaining their acceptance.

Simple things like a good sense of humor and a warm smile can also take you far.

We all have strengths and weaknesses. I think it's important to be real about what those are and try to do what we can to improve on the weaknesses. Transitioning, especially later in life, can be a long hard process. It takes a crazy amount of effort for a lot of us. My philosophy is that if you put in the effort it will pay off but those results take time and don't happen overnight.

It took a lot of time and effort to get to where I am today and I still have things that I need to work on. My confidence has grown quite a bit but I still feel a little shaky at times in public. If a guy is staring at me I still wonder if it's because he thinks I look hot or that he is totally reading me.

I'm self employed and a sex worker so I never had to deal with acceptance in the work place. But I think I am fairly competent at what I do

[Rusty Eldora]

I think looks can make it easier on transwomen but there are other things like deportment and voice that really make a difference in public settings. You can look like a million bucks but if you walk like a lumberjack and sound like Barry White you are going to have a lot of trouble blending in with "the cisgendereds" and gaining their acceptance.

Simple things like a good sense of humor and a warm smile can also take you far. ...

My confidence has grown quite a bit but I still feel a little shaky at times in public. If a guy is staring at me I still wonder if it's because he thinks I look hot or that he is totally reading me.

Besides for the walk and sound of the voice, there is that unique girl talk (also guy talk) about thoughts, phrases, approach, manners, et al that girls use when talking among themselves. It is really a foreign language, kudos to all TG's that master it - it is essential to be accepted by women.

Having a good sense of humor, the warm smile, and being happy really helps carry the day. Guys nearly forget everything if they are with a happy woman.

I am 99% certain the guy staring thinks you are smoking hot, unless there is a panty bulge. For those of us that know Tgirls we might notice something that makes us think "is she", but without knowing and watching Tgirls the thought "is she" wouldn't exist, they might think that you may have been a tomboy growing up (a really good thing).

You've gone for the classy social circuit woman look, besides for being stunning there is nary a thought you are around the industry. Instead you are the woman men wish to have on their arm at the important business party.

[buckjohnson]

Passing: have yet to see a tg who cannot be outed by a gg, even a very famous tg was not able to pass with my ggfs. Even with all the make up and photoshop And in real life, a sober cat or gg can spot a tg anytime. But finding a competant cocksucker is very difficult. Cocksucking should be an easy task, invovless actions learn as a child, a female can have endless practice and numerous cats to volunteer, plenty of how - to videoes videos avalible, yet woman still cant be skilled in the art of cocksuking. How does this happen?

[nysprod]

Passing: have yet to see a tg who cannot be outed by a gg, even a very famous tg was not able to pass with my ggfs. Even with all the make up and photoshop And in real life, a sober cat or gg can spot a tg anytime. But finding a competant cocksucker is very difficult. Cocksucking should be an easy task, invovless actions learn as a child, a female can have endless practice and numerous cats to volunteer, plenty of how - to videoes videos avalible, yet woman still cant be skilled in the art of cocksuking. How does this happen?

Very simple...if someone likes sucking cock they will be good at it...and vice versa.

[buckjohnson]

I worked in a very public job with a girl who was transitioning, i have published her difficulties here before so wont re-publish. I used to think I could relate to tgs public acceptance issues, because I am often mistaken as being gay, but since knowing tgs in real life and being a member of this forum I found that perception sadly mistaken. I think I would pay for a good blowjob. Another ? Can a perso spot a great cocksucker by loks and/ or convo alone?

[nysprod]

I worked in a very public job with a girl who was transitioning, i have published her difficulties here before so wont re-publish. I used to think I could relate to tgs public acceptance issues, because I am often mistaken as being gay, but since knowing tgs in real life and being a member of this forum I found that perception sadly mistaken. I think I would pay for a good blowjob. Another ? Can a perso spot a great cocksucker by loks and/ or convo alone?

Well, I think that if someone I find attractive is having a convo with me re how good their skills are I'd be apt to give them a go at it...

[SammiValentine]

In general I beleive how trans are portrayed in media is what will always ultimately effect acceptance. Masses of our society(fair to say western civilisation anyway) are reliant on being told or erm shepherded on whats cool, whats acceptable. If trans where shown as heros, comedians, cool, funny, intellgigent, in our dramas, films and reality bollacks shows and any other shit we like to dwindile our lives away watching......................... then except a lot more acceptance from your average peon.

Thats gone a bit off topic rom the question ish. Regardles of gender, race etc the key to being accepted on a personal IRL situation, our daily lives.... is to simply not be a wanker. You can be good at your job and be a wanker, your still a wanker, you can be trans, male female and be a grade A Wanker, your skin can be any colour to be a wanker. Just dont be a wanker and the rest all falls in line - and if you happen to be gorgeous, convincing, or less so ... that really shouldnt be factor, for me it is all about the wanker factor.

How good you are at your job, how good you look, means nothing for my money in comparison to the type of person you are in your heart.

[BellaBellucci]

In general I beleive how trans are portrayed in media is what will always ultimately effect acceptance. Masses of our society(fair to say western civilisation anyway) are reliant on being told or erm shepherded on whats cool, whats acceptable. If trans where shown as heros, comedians, cool, funny, intellgigent, in our dramas, films and reality bollacks shows and any other shit we like to dwindile our lives away watching......................... then except a lot more acceptance from your average peon.

Thats gone a bit off topic rom the question ish. Regardles of gender, race etc the key to being accepted on a personal IRL situation, our daily lives.... is to simply not be a wanker. You can be good at your job and be a wanker, your still a wanker, you can be trans, male female and be a grade A Wanker, your skin can be any colour to be a wanker. Just dont be a wanker and the rest all falls in line - and if you happen to be gorgeous, convincing, or less so ... that really shouldnt be factor, for me it is all about the wanker factor.

How good you are at your job, how good you look, means nothing for my money in comparison to the type of person you are in your heart.

Say 'wanker' again.

~BB~