Is anyone else frustrated with transsexual attraction?

[jernonymous]

Hi guys,

I've enjoyed this forum for some time, but this is my first post. I apologize if this topic has already been covered in another thread.

I'm interested to know if anyone else is frustrated by their attraction to transsexuals. I am more attracted to trans women than I am to any other kind of person - male or female. Because of this, I feel like the only outlets available for my sexuality are porn and escorts. It's frustrating, and sometimes I wish I were just gay because homosexuality has received such mainstream acceptance. The problem is - I know that I'm not gay. I am not attracted to anything on a man other than his penis.

Brad Pitt on the cover of GQ does nothing for me, while Jessica Alba on the cover of Vogue does something for me, but not that much. But a transsexual porn star like Honey Foxxx? Good lord, I'm overwhelmed with sexual attraction.

What's more frustrating is that despite how allegedly open-minded everyone is today about sexuality, the rest of the world - even so-called "allies" - insists on forcing people into one of two boxes - straight or gay. Unfortunately, I don't really think I fit either category. I have a girlfriend and I love her, and I actually very much enjoy sex with her - I'm ravenous when I'm physically with her. But I don't fantasize about her when she's not around. The image of her or any other woman naked, does nothing for me in the abstract.

Anyway - I just wanted to see if anyone else here felt the same way. I'm not ashamed of my attraction, it's way more complicated than that. I just want to try and find someone to talk to who can empathize, or who will at least try to understand me.

Thanks,

jer

[undercvrslut]

Wow after reading it, I felt like I wrote it myself lol! Totally get you dude. Wish there were more solutions to the problem

[Ben in LA]

I'll admit I think about that sometimes...

[LilyRox]

Thought this was going to be one of those "is it gay?" threads lol. Yeah I know what you mean. The hardest part is we get grouped into the gay category because there isn't a lot of tgirls so most hang out at gay bars which makes a lot of people think gay and trans are related, which in my opinion aren't at all.

[Prospero]

If you live in a bigger city - London. Manchester, New York, LA for example... then you can meet girls at clubs. You don't have to go down the porn or escort route. In smaller places it is harder. (like in Indiana, clearly)

[LilyRox]

If you live in a bigger city - London. Manchester, New York, LA for example... then you can meet girls at clubs. You don't have to go down the porn or escort route. In smaller places it is harder. (like in Indiana, clearly)

Not looking :P

[Tina Francis]

"The problem is - I know that I'm not gay. I am not attracted to anything on a man other than his penis."


...I think there is a disconnect here. I was under the impression that you were gay if you liked another man's penis. Am I wrong?

[dderek123]

Yup I feel this way. I was in a relationship with a TS but it didn't work out. Now...

[scuderia]

Thought this was going to be one of those "is it gay?" threads lol. Yeah I know what you mean. The hardest part is we get grouped into the gay category because there isn't a lot of tgirls so most hang out at gay bars which makes a lot of people think gay and trans are related, which in my opinion aren't at all.

well, cant deny that there are also a lot of gays and sissy boys who are interested in tgirls.

as long as these girls have a dick, they will always be part of the gay scene

[jernonymous]

"The problem is - I know that I'm not gay. I am not attracted to anything on a man other than his penis."


...I think there is a disconnect here. I was under the impression that you were gay if you liked another man's penis. Am I wrong?

Tina - I think that's the average person's gut reaction. However, think of the reverse: what if I LOVED vagina but wasn't attracted to the female body and instead preferred masculine bodies? Buck Angel would be my #1 crush. Should I still be considered straight? I'm turned on by the male sex organ but not by masculinity, whereas most gay men are turned on by both. I don't think gay is the right label for whatever it is that I am.