Does your wife know?

[RallyCola]

No, never

oh ok...then you must hide it well. before i told my wife, i was always worried she'd find the stash. in fact, in 2001, she did find 1 video that i left in the download folder among lesbian videos. since it was only 1, i played it off as if it was a joke that someone sent me and i downloaded accidentally.

my point is...since she knows but never brings it up...are you free to enjoy the porn in private or are you in constant fear that she will find the porn and lambaste you about it?

[will802]

well now that she knows...does she ever bring it up?

oh ok...then you must hide it well. before i told my wife, i was always worried she'd find the stash. in fact, in 2001, she did find 1 video that i left in the download folder among lesbian videos. since it was only 1, i played it off as if it was a joke that someone sent me and i downloaded accidentally.

my point is...since she knows but never brings it up...are you free to enjoy the porn in private or are you in constant fear that she will find the porn and lambaste you about it?

We both have our own devices and don't share one. Kind of like our own don't ask don't tell. Same applies with our personal finances. I do only stream and rarely download though.

[pimpdog]

I never told my girlfriend, she found out by accident, I had some movies downloaded in my bittorrent que and she watched one. Didn't end well.

I still miss her sometimes.

Fucking Hilarious.

[BlüeKarma]

Yeah, the perils of living in a overly conservative town.

[Mrnobody]

Thanks for all your answers this far. It's pleasant to hear, that for many of you things have settled nice. The ones who have told by themselfs about it, your partners have good reason to value your courage to tell it openly. Too bad every relationship cant handle it.

After few days on confusion, I think my own relationship with my wife is now better than before. I dont have to stress of hiding this fantasy anymore, and that makes atmosphere feeling much more free and open. I interpreted that she accepted it, at least in major way. But I still wouldnt give any advice to anyone

[RallyCola]

Thanks for all your answers this far. It's pleasant to hear, that for many of you things have settled nice. The ones who have told by themselfs about it, your partners have good reason to value your courage to tell it openly. Too bad every relationship cant handle it.

After few days on confusion, I think my own relationship with my wife is now better than before. I dont have to stress of hiding this fantasy anymore, and that makes atmosphere feeling much more free and open. I interpreted that she accepted it, at least in major way. But I still wouldnt give any advice to anyone

for me it was a bit of serendipity so to speak. for some reason in the weeks leading up to me telling her, i had envisioned telling her just to get it out there and off my chest. my love of transwomen and their porn is a significant part of my masturbatory and online life therefore i not only wanted her to be a part of that, but i also knew that she had to eventually find out so better i tell her. the TV show and the transwoman on it, being particularly average at best, was the perfect opportunity.

here's how awesome my relationship is and how accepting she has become. this AM when watching the sterling stuff on espn, she turned to me and said, "V. Stiviano looks like a tranny but not as hot as the ones you like."

short of actually joining in a threesome with me, i really can't ask for anything more and i feel particularly unburdened.

[rockabilly]

Short answer is ... Yes.

[Idt20082008"]

Great question, and one that I am debating currently. I have been dating a girl for almost a year, and can see myself marrying her. I want to tell because I think it would really add to our sex life and also because I think she would be attracted to Trans Women as well. I'm not 100% sure though and had a bad experience previously when a girlfriend found out, so those two things hold me back. I keep hoping she brings it up to me and asks, or better yet just brings porn home and puts it in but that is probably a pipe dream. Pun intended. She told me previously she likes guy/guy porn but not sure if or how that factors in

[RallyCola]

before i told my wife, i had always thought to strategically leave out some porn...with a 95/5 mix...95% ggirl and 5% tgirl so that there was a buffer and if she got mad, she would only do so about porn in general rather than just not understanding.

that was one of many schemes that i had come up with but in the end, outright honesty worked.

[ldfelix]

I never told my ex wife but she loved to put on a strap-on and top me. I dont know how she would have reacted. a few of my friends know so i have an outlet. id like to be more open and hate that i know it would make my relationships with some people "weird"