No, I Don't Have To Tell You I'm Trans Before Dating You

[stimpy17]

So any chance of a relationship is based on a half truth at best. What would go wrong with that?

[trish]

No I don't have to tell you...

In most States I'm not obligated to tell, 'cause I'm legally protected by concealed carry.

[luvzbig1s]

If you plan to have sexual relations with the other person then yes or would you consider it perfectly fine to not finding out that the person you just had sex with was married or in fact had a STD affter the fact and I would think before kissing them then yes I would say you should. If there is no plans to have a deeper relationship other than going out on a date then it doesn't matter

[retroboy]

Somethings I feel transgenders don't help themselves with people like Zinna Jones thats why I think homophobes and transphobes call them Gay Mafia.

[Dudedude12345]

Yeah how smart, escalate a situation you already started. Thats the same stupidity that got a user on this forum in the hospital

[frosty51]

Do any of the guys on this forum disclose to potential GG partners of your interest in TS girls? Do you admit you've actually fucked (and have been fucked) by them?

I do. And it has resulted in a few women losing interest. I'm okay with that.

[gaysian71]

You should probably disclose that you are trans before getting intimate. You never know. A girl could find a man to date and end up dead. And his defense would be. "She was a trap. I didn't know . After I pulled her panties down and sucked her cock till she came down my throat, I realized she was trans so I killed her."

[ghbryans]

Selling yourself as something you're not is lying, plain and simple. Be it for employment, sex, or love. You can gray area it all you want trying to make it somehow "okay", but you'll still be a liar with all that entails.

[Nick Danger]

My opinion: First of all, people lie all the time, about many, many things, in the conversations leading up to dating. I've known guys who would tell girls practically anything to get into their pants. There's even an old hit song by the Bellamy Brothers called I'd Lie To You For Your Love. The chorus goes, "I'm a doctor, I'm a lawyer, I'm a movie star, I'm an astronaut and I own this bar; And I'd lie to you for your love..."

There are a couple different possible motives for this kind of lying. The most likely one is that the guy has no intention of pursuing a relationship once he achieves his goal of getting her into the sack. But it could also be that he hopes once she gets to know him, she won't care about those lies anymore, and he knows he'll never get that far by telling the truth.

So people lie, men and women both, and then there may be consequences when/if the lie is discovered. Lying about being trans is no different. The moment she whips out her dick might be a bit more dramatic than the moment some guy admits he's actually just a construction worker and can't afford that expensive piece of jewelry, but the principle is the same.

They say all's fair in love and war.

[trish]

It’s not lying. Yes, it’d be lying to say that you’re not transgender, if in fact you are. But it’s not lying to pass as a women when indeed you are.

It’s perhaps wise, for the sake of one’s own safety, to be as completely truthful as possible about one’s gender, and as soon a possible. But the trick is in figuring out what ‘possible’ means in this context. Of course you can alway blurt out - first thing- your entire gender history to everyone you meet, but social propriety doesn’t really allow this as an appropriate possibility. Each girl has to assess the situation she’s in and determine when the time is right. If she’s wrong about the guy she’s with it’s not her fault, if he knifes her, beats her up, or kills her. It’s his fault, and the fault of that segment society that keeps backing him up in threads like this one.

Odd that this mostly goes one way. How many trans-men are murdered by disappointed women?