My Trans Lover-Friend has Detransistioned, now what?

[Rcrxjlb]

I've been involved with a pre-op trans for 15 years. We have never had a monogomous relationship, she has been more like a misstress to me. We lost contact for about 6 months then, I saw her on Facebook live and now she dresses like a man. She even cut her hair! I have not talked to her in person yet and I'm wondering what I should say or do when I meet with her again. I have contacted her through text via her sister's phone (says she lost her phone but her voicemail is still active). She wants to meet but I'm confused by her appearance. Does anybody know what might be happening here?

[Nikka]

you can both go drink a beer and play pool like men

[Rcrxjlb]

Well, that's about all we can do. I'm not having sex with the new look going on...

[tao1kiku]

Just be respectful of his/her decision

[dc_guy_75]

Your relationship will just be something different, maybe even friends.

[lexer]

Interesting... Aren't you even a little attracted to him? After all, you had a relationship for 15 years

[luvzbig1s]

It is their decision and if them being a pre-op trans was what drew you to them, then just be friends and find someone else. Apparently they moved on with their life and so should you..

[llemming]

Congratulate him and wish him well. Express gratitude for the time you shared.

[filghy2]

If it's important to you to understand what your ex has done I don't seen any alternative to meeting them and discussing it. If you cared about this person, and it wasn't just about sex, then why would you not be willing to at least hear what they have to say?

[Rcrxjlb]

Interesting... Aren't you even a little attracted to him? After all, you had a relationship for 15 years

Yes, I do still have some feelings for her/him but, I'm not turned on by the new look cause she/him is just too masculine now. I've seen the "bad hair day" and the "just woke up from 12 hrs sleep" side of her/him and that didn't bother me. But this is too much...