My Trans Lover-Friend has Detransistioned, now what?

[Rcrxjlb]

It is their decision and if them being a pre-op trans was what drew you to them, then just be friends and find someone else. Apparently they moved on with their life and so should you..

Agreed. I knew one day I would have to let go but, I figured she would fall in love with some guy, not try to look like one...

[Rcrxjlb]

If it's important to you to understand what your ex has done I don't seen any alternative to meeting them and discussing it. If you cared about this person, and it wasn't just about sex, then why would you not be willing to at least hear what they have to say?

Well, I'm afraid that maybe the fact that we were not together as a traditional couple had something to do with her decision. If so, then my actions (or inaction) may have caused this...

[Rcrxjlb]

Congratulate him and wish him well. Express gratitude for the time you shared.

I have no problem doing that. But I do feel somewhat responsible...

[Rcrxjlb]

Just be respectful of his/her decision

Yes. I'm not angry or planning on starting an argument; I just want to know why...

[Rcrxjlb]

Your relationship will just be something different, maybe even friends.

I don't see that happening. We didn't do things together as I do with my other friends. It was mostly a few beers at her apartment, some weed for her (I don't smoke) then passionate sex. We rarely went to clubs, maybe a few house parties...

[GroobySteven]

2020 First World Problems.

[MrFanti]

Just be respectful of his/her decision

Exactly!

[Cereal Escapist]

Well, I'm afraid that maybe the fact that we were not together as a traditional couple had something to do with her decision. If so, then my actions (or inaction) may have caused this...

People make decisions for quite varied reasons and it really should not matter why. Your role is to support this person or get out of their way if you can't accept the new iteration, physical and sexual appeal aside. I would also stop thinking that you had much to do with this change because if this person meant so much to you and vice versa, you may have engaged in a more traditional relationship.

[mealticket]

Sounds like you care about them so might not be a bad idea to have a chat with them. See how they are

[Stavros]

'Do you mind if I take my wig off?' she said, and I said no. But then it was just a one-night stand, and drag was the best we could get in the 1970s even in London. Shane and Lorri Lee, who used to perform at the now defunct Black Cap in Camden Town were just as pretty without the wigs and gowns, but made an effort to be so. I guess it helps get one over the line, and back again.