dating a trans women/adult model/escort

[Prospero]

Tyler - a very illuminating answer. Thank you.

...."Sometimes he goes up high ladders on dark windy nights, as part of his work. I hate that. But accept."

is your partner Santa Claus?

[Tyler___Durden]

Big grins!
No, but he certainly know how to fill my stocking!

[Dkg]

Tyler - I think you are in many ways a very sorted person and your boyfriend/partner is also clearly quite a remarkable person. Indeed you do date the person, not the job. So a girl might go out with a cop, a bloke might date a woman who works in psychotherapy etc.... but there is one crucial difference about a sex worker, surely. That difference is that sex is located at the heart of our relations with each other - with our partners that is - and inevitably jealousy must be there in some shape of form and anxieties and so forth. He might wonder - do I measure up to the guys she is seeing professionally? is she at risk? And just that area of intimacy which in most relationships is kept as special between two people is not there. The partner must sometimes be anxious - perhaps the girl will be attracted especially to that client who is dazzlingly good looking, bright or amazing in bed. Insecurity is core fact in many relationships to begin with. And from the escort's point of view isn't there a egree of insecurity also. Will your partner stray because he sees you as straying through your work? Will he finally reject you because he meets someone who does not sell her body for sex? Etc etc. Okay love or special feelng is contained in the relationshp and excluded in professional dealings. Certain things are off-limits professionally. For many escorts this means no kissing (but many do) it surely should mean no bareback sex - though again there are frequent reports of those who do offer this (most must surely be HIV poz and know this) and if you and your partner are tested this is an area of intimacy you can share that is special. Obviously all the other intimacies that a couple share can be there - of knowing and feeling and understanding etc. But if sexuality s not a privileged area between you it really does add an extra layer of difficulty - and relationships are hard enough to sustain anyway.

Of course there is hypocrisy here. Many of your clients will be married men who will certainly NOT be telling their partners that they are seeing an escort. You at least have the truth laid bare with your partner. And he can be pretty assured that you are not giving yourself emotionally to the guys that come to call. The wives and girlfriends of punters have no such knowledge.

But anyway ......Just wondering!

Co-sign.

relationships are hard enough when she isn't in the industry. I have no idea how some guys get through it when she is. I'm sure it takes more than just love and trust.

[METALFACE]

Co-sign.

relationships are hard enough when she isn't in the industry. I have no idea how some guys get through it when she is. I'm sure it takes more than just love and trust.

yes relationships are hard enough, and if shes in the industry it takes alot, there has to some sort of strong bond.

[tsadriana]

yes relationships are hard enough, and if shes in the industry it takes alot, there has to some sort of strong bond.

My opinion an escort who will have relantionship with guy will be tired to sleep with other guys as she wants to settle down.but when a girl who sleep with guys for no interest just for the pleasure will always be like that.,who work in industry thinks for a chnage but who does just for pleasure with one ,2 100,s guys will always be like that.so what relantionship could be that?

[METALFACE]

My opinion an escort who will have relantionship with guy will be tired to sleep with other guys as she wants to settle down.but when a girl who sleep with guys for no interest just for the pleasure will always be like that.,who work in industry thinks for a chnage but who does just for pleasure with one ,2 100,s guys will always be like that.so what relantionship could be that?

No one but the two in the relationship will ever understand, the long talks that make u both tear up,talks of reassurance and promises that the escorting will not be forever. As i have learnd to do this, and i have my girls back 100%,

[amberskyi]

No one but the two in the relationship will ever understand, the long talks that make u both tear up,talks of reassurance and promises that the escorting will not be forever. As i have learnd to do this, and i have my girls back 100%,

its not for everyone.if you can deal with it great if you cant than oh well.im at a point where i no longer see a reason to defend choices that i made in order to not only survive but to flourish in my transition.its not something that is forever but for right now its necessary.
ive been lucky in finding someone who may not relish the idea but understands.sure we've had our moments where is just became too much (my 6 month hiatus) but we've come to and understanding based on honesty,communication and direction.

[mealticket]

I think if you are going to date some one in one of those industries then you will have to be able to handle the jealousy and everything else that may come with it...either that or make sure to take care of them so they no longer have to work in that field...if they like the work then you will have to accept it and not try to change them....

[tsadriana]

I think if you are going to date some one in one of those industries then you will have to be able to handle the jealousy and everything else that may come with it...either that or make sure to take care of them so they no longer have to work in that field...if they like the work then you will have to accept it and not try to change them....

and who wants to change them if they really love them to support them to not be necersarly escorting anymore.
example: stop escorting because i love u or u love me
question :how do i suvive then?
if many people sees as very wierd so for us as trans woman is hard to find the job we want and another thing is to deal with racism ,dicrimination and homophob sick people who doesn`t understand that actualy our lifes is always a batle to suvive in this dificult world to not say cruel world.

[ashymon]

I would think that if I loved someone I would do anything for her. If she escorts because she needs money, I would take care of her so she diddnt need the money. If she needed money for transition, I would help her so she did not have to escort to pay for it. If she escorted because she liked sex with multiple partners, then she probably would not be the person for me.